A preparation to self-improvement
I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful. The other day, while I was hosting a call for a group of like minded souls on a journey of evolution, I had a brilliant glimpse at how far I have come in the last 8 years. It was a spectacular moment of reflection with stark contrast and glorious triumph. One of the guests on the call that morning was talking about a dramatic transformation where he had experienced moving from the grips of alcoholism into near instant sobriety. As we discussed his journey, I began to reflect on my own, and although my journey has not been one that has come with instant rewards, if I compare my life today to that of 8 years ago, it is equally miraculous!
Back then, I could have never imagined the magical life I live now. I was in the throws of a challenging divorce from a man who I had allowed to squelch all but the last flicker of hope I had in my once vibrant spirit. But as I sit here now, I can attest to the fact that you can ABSOLUTELY rebuild your life at any moment. While my life isn’t all sunshine and lollipops, my attitude is, and that is what makes all the difference.
Self-help and personal development have become such huge buzz words over the past decade, but they wouldn’t have if the tools, techniques and strategies they employ didn’t work. The truth is, they do, and finding the right combination of self-help tools that work for you is critical. The great news is, there are so many options to choose from, it is a veritable cornucopia of possibilities! 🙂 I had so much fun exploring the possibilities that were out there, I not only improved the quality of my life dramatically, I created a whole new career for myself as an energy healer, radio show host, and intuitive life/self-development coach! Who’d have thought? 🙂 But because I also understand that knowing where to start can be a bit overwhelming, I have created a short list of key points to get you thinking about what direction you would like to take your life.
- Do I need change? Chances are, if you have come to this website, or this blog post has found it’s way to your inbox, the answer is yes. On a soul level you are being guided to the next great version of your self, what ever that is for you.
- Am I happy at where I am today? I believe happiness is a choice. ALWAYS! I know from experience that at times it may not seem like it, but truly grasping this concept is critical to living a fulfilling life. If being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids brings you happiness and joy, then take it up a notch! If on the other hand, you are unhappy with your level of parenting, use that as place to start. What would you like to see? How would you like your relationship to be? Define that, then take daily action toward living your new reality. Every day may not be perfect, everyone may not jump on board right away, but setting a new desired outcome for your relationships and focusing on that every day will get you there. When it doesn’t go exactly according to plan, look for the places it did, not where it didn’t. This will help keep you moving forward.
- What are your core values? What lies at the heart of why you do what you do? Is it because you value joy or connection? Do you desire peace and harmony? Do you love being creative, or providing for your family? There is no right or wrong here, the answer to the question is whatever is perfect for you. Think about it for a while. What drives just about everything you do? For me, I subscribe to the values of love, laughter, creativity, health and abundance. And under that is a desire to inspire and empower others. This combination of values originally lead me into a career in the arts, but has since transformed into the beautiful new life you see me living today.
- Have I done enough for myself? Have you? Or is there something more you want to do? Taking care of yourself is an often overlooked and frequently undervalued concept. But the reality is, not taking care of your own needs can lead to discontentment, and that can be dangerous in large doses. The great news is, in small amounts it can be used as a catalyst to propel you forward, inspiring you to see and do things you could never imagine doing. The key is to notice when it is bubbling to the surface and then taking action to apese it. Use discontentment as a sign post to remind you that you are not taking care of yourself, then do something about it rather than letting it fester and grow.
Finding out what really makes you tick can be a joyous journey. Don’t rush it. Enjoy the process. The other day on our show Amethyst Wyldfyre said, “It is neither about the journey or the destination, it is about the beautiful unfolding that happens when you blend the two.” Always remember, that self-improvement/personal development is not just about the physical or philosophical change you make, it is about making a choice to claim the infinite you you were put here to be! 🙂